These were written to communicate those things in which, if broken or the boundary crossed, could possibly result in dismissal. They were written specifically with my needs in mind. Flagg taught a class for TES a while ago that discussed different ways of maintaining confidence and one’s place in Master/slave and Owner/property type relationships. He discussed having a list of issues that are “lines in the sand” for you, as far as what you are willing to fight for to the point of possibly dismissing a slave.
Having been through a relationship in which there was very little communicated as to what could lead to dismissal, and ended in a very clear dismissal, after a slave violently threw her collar at me, with somehow, the expectation that she would get it back, I realized that there are things I will not tolerate under any circumstances from slaves/property… this is the list I came up with, after review from my property/personal assistant/secretary, Princess Phoenix Star for fairness and grammatical and spelling mistakes:
1. If I am not feeling well, attention to my health and my needs are of utmost importance, unless told otherwise. There is not to be any resistance to the fact I may not feel well enough to do something physically or mentally strenuous.
2. When I am right, I’m right. If I am wrong, its ok to correct me, just don’t do it so loud that it causes negative attention.
3. I am not to ever be put in a humiliating position by my slaves, that includes slaves being rude to others, causing issues in public, fighting with me in public, and similar things. Use your knowledge and perception, if you think it might put me in that position, wait until an appropriate time. Do not do it. I expect slaves to be the picture of courteousness and respect.
4. If theres a situation that you think that I should know about, please tell me in an appropriate forum, pull me aside and tell me. If theres any doubt in your mind whether its important to tell me or not, then ask to talk and I’ll make that decision. There is no excuse for making the wrong judgement.
5. You may be assigned certain simple menial duties or tasks. This is to help me keep things running smoothly, do not mistake that they are menial for them not being important.
6. There will be many times of informality, you will have a signal or word to move between these modes of behaviour, but don’t mistake informality for permission to push the rules.
7. Do not disobey a direct order if it is not harmful to your physical or mental health and/or mine, especially in front of other people.
8. You will most likely have a token of my ownership. This object is to be treated as if it were me. It is not to be taken off without permission. The moment it comes off without permission, I will take that as a sign that you do not want this relationship.
9. If I own you, play partners are to be cleared through me, even times/dates if appropriate.
10. The agreement made with me to be owned by me, is not an agreement to take lightly, and the benefit of being owned by me is something not to take lightly either. For better or for worse, if you are owned by me, you become under my protection, and I am responsible for the behaviour you put forth. If any behaviour on your part embarrasses me, there will be appropriate punishment. By the same token, if you are under my protection, I would like to know things like where you are (in general), what you might be doing, and whether you are safe or not (the most important part).
