Objective Ownership

I am resurrecting my Leather Family site, but editing all real names out of it, but I found this gem, that I thought I’d post:

“Of course. On some level, you have to inspire submission, it just doesn’t happen magically. Its in this way you earn it, just as we have to earn everything else worth something in this life.

The facts are that because the property and submissives we deal with are human, we still have to keep thier attention somehow. If they are not getting something from thier submission to you, then why are they in that relationship to begin with?

Objective reality tells me that each side must benefit for this type of relationship to last. In some ways the idea of a feudal lord and vassal works very well along these lines, there is definitely advantages to serving as well as being served.

When one gets a sense of entitlement for whatever reason that does not stem from one’s own accomplishments, then one forgets the simple objective reality of the fact that when one earns something, it becomes thiers, in this way, we hold on to the ownership of our property.”

Personal Safety in ‘the Communities’

This has been bothering me over the last couple days. I am going to talk in terms of a hypothetical situation- but the reality is that this type of thing can and does happen.

At an event – a staff member in charge of a specific area is sitting with a couple of new women – that are young. These women don’t have a ton of experience in the communities nor are they particularly secure in the environment.

The staff member starts coming on to these women rather hard – they tell him they aren’t interested, but he does not take “no” for an answer.

Instead he marks one with bruises (saying that he is not hitting “hard enough to bruise – and the girl is scared – as this is a staff member of the event she is at.

Later on, he pulls the other girl by the hair. Non-consentually.

Now – to some extent, these women have a personal responsibility to protect themselves – but the staff member should *know better*

Not only that, but when was the last time we had a “personal safety” class in our community. People don’t seem to realize that sexual assault can happen anywhere – and our “scene” is ripe picking for an abuser.

People don’t want to “cause drama” or think that because a person is popular or in power as a leader that they will not be listened to.

Even this past weekend, I had to assure two women who had been assaulted that it was ok to come forward.

Why have we stopped teaching personal safety, boundaries, and how to defend one’s self? We have been lured into a place where we believe that this community is safer than all the others because of our hangup on the word “consent”

In a perfect world, this would be true, but it’s not. I think it’s high time we come uo with ways to educate women on these subjects. What do ya’ll think?